I am at a meet the first time lunch with guy from Yahoo personals.Â This is where I start regretting not going to kindergarten, which is my scapegoat for lack of confidence in my social skills.Â Then I regret that I still havenâ€™t gotten around to putting up a picture with my new glasses, so that I can be better sure to be recognized.Â I go on with it nonetheless.Â Â Â Â Adding to my discomfort about this mode of meeting people this particular meeting started immediately questions about what I want in a relationship, and what is my approach in the personals and he maybe even asked me to define my philosophy of life in 7 words or less. This is before we even ordered lunch. Â Exaggerating again, I made up the stuff about 7 words or less…Â To take it slower I repeated the phrase â€œon the spotâ€ Â like six times and asked if we could order lunch first.Â So we both sighed, agreed how awkward and weird this is and he mentioned that someone he had been emailing just never emailed him again, he thought that very rude.Â I told him that I think the yahoo personals should be renamed the Â â€œyahoo donâ€™t take it personallyâ€sÂ I think it suits.
So now when the guy deletes his profile after I write something clever to him, I think of that.Â When the man,Â who I couldnâ€™t decide if he was hard to get to know type or consummately boring, then decided I will give him a shot; emails that he is having â€œsecond thoughts about meeting again,â€ I turn that phrase to an acronym, YDTiPs.Â I can see anyone in this will use it so much it will need shortening.
Here are some comments on YDTiPs topic
A man I met last Sunday said he â€œreached outâ€ to 100 women in a day once.Â I suspect that reach out really means looked at the picture to see if they look attractive in 2D and send a generic intro.Â Only 4 people wrote back from a media that is supposed to be conducive for meeting people looking for romantic connection.
Asking to go dutch on $12 breakfast isnâ€™t a YDTiP, it is a RAF (run away fast)
Joe inspired by how much fun I have been having meeting people, trying hard not to be hostile and getting rejected a lot put an ad up for himself.Â He said this is just a new venue for rejection. Cheers to Joe for joining the arena.Â Itâ€™s like watching a little train wreck â€“ you cringe but canâ€™t stop looking.
So I feel thanks to that lunch for both my new acronym YDTiP and for my a cool friend who made me think of it.