I like the conversations I have trying to explain exactly who someone is. Here is one trying to pinpoint a particular dancer.
You know who he is… He is like 5’6, has redish brown scruffy hair…
has facial hair that isn’t in any particular styled way, not a lot but all up and uncontolled like his hair
He’s lovely, medium build, brown eyes
He gives good gaze
Ha! gives good gaze I like that.
Oh me too I think I said it first and I want it to catch on. Maybe I should write about it.
In contra dancing usually the person you are dancing with looks at you while you are dancing. This ranges from looking at a point on your shirt, forehead or hair to diving right into the depths of someone’s eyes for the time you are together. There is a very practical purpose for this is that you wont be a dizzy with swinging. Commonly the looking directly in the eyes offers a stronger connection dancing, or at least the appearance of one. This freaked me out considerably for the first few months I was dancing. I am supposed to go from one person I don’t know to the next, have their arms around me was enough to make me pause. On top of that sometimes they are regarding me with an loving expression that until this scene, I have reserved for people I have a more intimate relationship with. I just could not put out like this; I stared at shoulders.
Along the time I stop having to worry about dizziness I stared to be a little bolder in the eye contact arena. First it was just a few very accessible people, then more and more. Now there are only a few people who shake my comfort with this and mostly I enjoy it. Especially when I can use the distinctive way people give out their gaze to get the “Oh I know who you mean.” In the conversation above however it didn’t work and I will have to remember to point him out next time.